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It really is funny how right I was, without fully comprehending it. I knew there was more, is more, to every story than what is initially expressed.
Time itself is a wonderful medium for unraveling secrets, but so is wisdom. It takes a while for the extended series of hints and unwittingly revealing comments to grow large enough to ascertain true motivation. And though I knew one day I would understand, I didnt suspect it would come like this- a series of blind revelations in the middle of the night. But such is the case with all wisdom; it is sought after vainly, but only received when you have forgotten to look.
Subject of tonight’s wisdom: “Openness.” Defined by Princeton Wordnet as “characterized by an attitude of ready accessibility (especially about one’s actions or purposes); without concealment; not secretive”
Two people can only be open with each other if they believe they will not be scorned for their opinions, and thus are more likely to be open if they share the same set of values. The problem is, until you are open, you never know if these values are as similar as originally thought.
One person can spend a large amount of time naively thinking another person is being “open” but understand later that said other person avoided the truth for fear of being rejected, or because knowledge of conflicting values was intimidating. It is hard to make personal feelings and actions readily accessible when worried others will be disappointed in them.
Therefore, it becomes of the utmost necessity to understand morality and consider it before all other characteristics. Openness is a two way street - the receiver and the giver both must be prepared for the exchange. Know what values people will hold themselves to, but also understand what values you will hold them to.
Openness is desirable but not always possible, and sometimes it takes time and wisdom to understand what factors prevented either party from achieving it.
